Monday, February 14, 2011

Happy Valentine's Day!

Our KKLA Financial Hope Seminar is this Saturday, February 19th, at the Glendale Hilton from 9am–1230pm.  It's free but seating is limited, so pre-register at

400-408 – Dr. Henry Cloud (, clinical psychologist and co-host of New Life Live ( heard weekdays at 2pm, talks about his book How to Get a Date Worth Keeping (2005) (Amazon).  Why do people often blame God for their singleness, i.e., "God hasn't chosen that for me"?  Why do we do better looking for a job than looking for a date?

An excerpt from How to Get a Date Worth Keeping – Lillie's Story,

// For two years her dating life had been stagnant, and she was denying that reality with a philosophy that if you do nothing, God will somehow step in and provide a man. That way of thinking, which I knew was nowhere in the Bible, kept her from seeing she was very, very stuck. My goal was to get her to see the reality of her situation and to get very discouraged. I wanted her to see that what she was doing was not working and that it had been that way for a long time. I wanted that realization to sink in and bother her. My trying to convince her that she was wrong was not going to work. She was too sure she was right. I wanted her to realize the reality of her dating life for herself. Just as balancing a checkbook can wake one up to one's lack of money, keeping a log would awaken Lillie to her lack of dates. //

413-423 – Dr. Henry Cloud. 

428-437 – The belief that "God created just one special person for me, my soul mate" is actually the spiritualized version of Hollywood's formula for marriage.  Hollywood's formula for marriage is "Find the right person, fall in love, fix all your hopes and dreams on that one person, and when you fail, repeat."  God says, "Become the right person, walk in love, fix your hopes and dreams in God, and if you fail, repeat."  Hollywood's relationship sequence is "physical, emotional, social, psychological, then spiritual."  God's sequence is the exact reverse, "spiritual, psychological, social, emotional, and then the physical."

443-452 – Calls

458-508 – Chris Grace, Professor of Psychology and Vice President for Student Development and University Planning at Biola University (, and his wife Alisa (Director of Women's Ministries at Whittier Hills Baptist Church), talk about Biola's first-ever "DTR Week" that kicks off today ( – and "DTR" stands for that awkward conversation where Christian college students have to "define the relationship" – i.e., are we "just friends" who go out together once in a while, or are we more-than-friends who could be.... oh no!....Dating!  E.g., "Bob and Betty had a DTR last night and now they're exclusive."  Lots of alumni report that they had committed one of two errors at either extreme – either they rushed into marriage too soon, or they treated their relationship too casually and missed a chance at what-might-have-been a great relationship.

• Chris and Alisa are speaking tomorrow night on campus in Calvary Chapel at 8:00pm on "DATING 101".  All you ever wanted to know about dating – Based on his new book, "Marriage Forecasting", Dr. Tim Muehlhoff will lead a practical "how-to" on everything from how to pursue a relationship to what to do while you're waiting for Mr./Mrs. Right. A Q&A time will follow featuring Dr. and Noreen Muehlhoff, Dr. Erik and Dr. Donna Thoennes, and Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace. CHAPEL CREDIT!

512-523 – Chris & Alisa Grace

528-539 – Chris & Alisa Grace

Paul Karpf, Founder and CEO of Financial Recovery USA (, 800-385-0745), is just one of ten companies in America certified by the Attorney General as a "Certified Foreclosure Consultant," and he has an "A" rating from the BBB.  For the next 10 callers, Paul will waive the usual $250 consultation fee, when you schedule a sit down face-to-face with one of his counselors.

544-554 – Chris & Alisa Grace

558-608 – Chris & Alisa Grace

612-623 – Chris & Alisa Grace

628-639 – CallsMarriage advice from those that have been married at least 10 years?

644-656 – CallsMarriage advice from those that have been married at least 10 years?

• EWT News (2/8/2011) Longest-married American couple to celebrate 82 years on Valentine's Day.

Worldwide Marriage Encounter has announced that Marshall and Winnie Kuykendall of Lordsburg, New Mexico, are the national winners of its "Longest Married Couple" contest. The couple will celebrate their 82nd wedding anniversary on February 14, 2011.

// The Kuykendalls, both originally from Arizona, married in 1929, just five months after they met. Marshall and Winnie have one daughter, who has been married for 56 years herself, and two grandchildren.

Three other couples won their states with marriages of 80 years apiece: Ivan and Doris Nishimura of Hawaii, Ralph and Dorothy Richards of Louisiana, and Paul and Ellenor Whiteman of West Virginia.

Out of the 312 nominations, 100 couples have been married for between 70 and 79 years, while 155 other nominees could boast anywhere from 60 to 69 years. //

• ABC News (11/18/2010) Marriage Obsolete? Pew Study: Americans Marrying Less, and Not For Same Reasons as Ozzie and Harriet.

My Summary –

In 1970, 72% of all adults were married.  In 2010, only 52% are.

40% of Americans think marriage is obsolete (up from 29% in 1978)

44% of those 18-29 think marriage is obsolete, while just 32% of those 65 and older do.

Those who think it's obsolete too:  44% of African Americans, 44% of those with a high school diploma or less, and 48% of those who make less than $30,000 a year.

Average marrying age:  women 26.1, men 28.2.

For the first time in 50 years, those in the 25-34 age group who are unmarried outnumber those married.

29% of those under 18 are now living with a parent or parents who are either divorced or never married.

6% of those under 18 are living with parents who never married.

What is a "family"?  86% say any parent with his or her child, 80% say an unmarried couple with a child, and 63% say a same-sex couple with a child.

Why did you get married?  93% say for love, 87% to make a commitment, 81% said companionship, 59% said to have kids, and 31% said for financial stability.

(:17) Serene Branson, CBS News reporter at the Grammy's last night (2/13/2011).

• NY Post (2/14/2011) CBS reporter speaks gibberish on-air; may have suffered stroke (video).  CBS Los Angeles reporter Serene Branson had what appeared to be a meltdown during a telecast from the Grammys last night.  Just after anchors went to her, she began slurring her words and making no sense.  Branson was taken to the hospital to determine whether she had a stroke, according to multiple reports.

• WebMD, What is a stroke?

Symptoms of a stroke happen quickly.  A stroke may cause:

Sudden numbness, tingling, weakness, or paralysis in your face, arm, or leg, especially on only one side of your body.

Sudden vision changes.

Sudden trouble speaking.

Sudden confusion or trouble understanding simple statements.

Sudden problems with walking or balance.

A sudden, severe headache that is different from past headaches.

If you have any of these symptoms, call 911 or other emergency services right away.

• Yahoo (2/13/2011) Man jailed after filming himself driving 140 mph.